Tag Archives: family

Judging, Grudges, and Our Parents

Our parents. I mean, they’re family, right? So, we have to love them…right?   I believe so. In spite of the mistakes, in spite of our realization that holy crap, they aren’t perfect….we love  them. We don’t always like them. And it seems like we blame them for every messed up thing about us- itContinue reading “Judging, Grudges, and Our Parents”

Each One Reach One

There is a magical ability to be present. Being there for people when they need you the most. When you go out of your way to make someone a priority, it shows them their importance. It enhances their value of self. Let’s be honest. We all want to feel needed and wanted. To be seenContinue reading “Each One Reach One”

Victim Blaming and Responsibility

              There is a fine line between holding yourself responsible and victim-blaming yourself. You have a responsibility to yourself to protect yourself at all times. Protect your energy, your body, your emotions, and  what you’ve worked hard to create. When people come in and violate, there has been aContinue reading “Victim Blaming and Responsibility”

Kujichagulia

Self Determination I’m currently celebrating Kwanzaa (in my own way). The second day of Kwanzaa focuses on the principle of Kujichagulia, which means self-determination. On this day, you define yourself, name yourself, create and speak for yourself. I love this principle because I believe in having discussions with yourself and getting to know YOU. It’sContinue reading “Kujichagulia”

Millenial Guilt

When you’re a kid, you have all the time in the world for your friends and family. In fact, you make it your mission to please them and to meet every expectation of you. Of course, you had the time do so with no real responsibilities, job, bills, and if you did have a relationship,Continue reading “Millenial Guilt”

Love On

There’s some lyric that goes “I need some ‘real good loving, because I’m troubled by the things that I see…”     In times like these, when my people are being slain in the streets. When I fear for the safety of my brothers, father, cousins, friends, and significant other When our freedom isn’t lookingContinue reading “Love On”