Do you know what feels like you’re frolicking in field of tall grass on a beautiful day?
Do you know what feels like ice cold water on a sweltering hot day?
Do you know what feels like (ladies) whipping that bra off after a long ass day?
Saying “no” feels like all of these things…liberating!
I feel like we don’t make a point to say “no” enough.
Did that coworker ask you to come out for drinks with everyone else after the work day? What’s that? You would really rather not? Say “no”!
“No” is so dope because it is so versatile. You can say “no” in a rude way. You can say “no” with a smile on your face. You can say “no” with an explanation. Or, my favorite, you can say “no” with no explanation at all and watch people get antsy while waiting for one.
“No” is so freeing that it makes people truly uncomfortable when they hear it. I think we’re all so used to hearing “yes” or hearing a reason why something can’t happen. Could we call that closure? Hmm…
I realized recently how I can “get out of things” just by being honest. If I really don’t have the money to go shopping because I’m trying to save, I can say that. If I don’t have the energy to do what others want to do, I say that. If I made plans ahead of time and now that the day has finally come to follow through with those plans and I would literally rather sleep for three days in my underwear, I say that.
We are adults, we don’t ALWAYS have to sacrifice our time, money, or energy doing things we don’t want to do. Say no sometimes. It’s good for your health. Two years ago, I told myself that I will live a life filled with peace. Saying “no” helps me to maintain that peace that I vowed to keep. My people pleasing days are over. And that’s okay. I had to realize that those days could be over without me being a mean person. My intentions are always pure. How someone perceives my “no” is none of my business.