Judgement

Let’s start off with the truth.

We ALL judge. What we judge people on may vary. Societal standards, our own values/morals, politics, blah, blah, blah. The list goes on and on. I’m learning, though. I’m starting to realize when I’m doing it. Starting to ask myself in that moment, “have I ever done something like that? How would I feel if someone wrote me off for me doing the same thing? If I had the same existence as this person, would I be any different?”

Usually, putting myself in that person’s shoes helps me to snap out of that gross behavior. As a person who feels constantly judged by her family and by society, I have to answer to the call to do better. To BE better.  It’s like we get through the struggle, or we overcome certain obstacles and reach a goal, so we detach from what that journey was like. We think WE DID IT! We made it, so now we don’t ever have to relate to that process again. This way of thinking is toxic! It’s problematic because had we not had that ONE moment that changed our lives for the better, we would still be in that struggle.

I loathe the way someone can judge me, then punish me  based off of THEIR judgement (which is based off of personal opinion.). I find it insensitive and controlling. If I don’t like that behavior when it effects me, I have to maintain that same disdain when I feel myself doing the same thing to someone else. I HAVE to check myself on that.

You ever hear that “you attract what you put out” saying? I feel like it applies here, for sure! I believe that if I keep putting out that negative energy (judging and gossiping about people), it’s only going to come right back around to me. Call it karma, I suppose.

During the day, I will start to ask myself more questions about how I feel on things that I’m experiencing. This will give me the chance to be my own checks & balance system. To stop  being so reactive.. We;re so concerned with other people and what they’re doing, or how they’re affecting us, that we don’t stop to think about how OUR actions are affecting others. What behaviors could you use a reality check on? How can you actively focus on fixing that within yourself?